You need a sense of safety and self-respect in order to step out in faith. Transformation feels like the swing of the pendulum—for better or worse, and both. As you grow stronger, so
will the attacks of self-doubt. This is normal and not to be avoided. Courage is gained only by facing what you fear the most.
There is a tenacious struggle in breaking old, destructive habits. Don’t let them catch you by surprise. Be assured that they are proof that you’re on the right path. These attacks will come from either internal or external sources. Affirmations are a powerful antidote against self-doubt, that subtle form of self-hate. Untreated it is self-sabotage. Take it to your Abba Father!
Read Psalm 39.
Your Creator accepts you where you are when you acknowledge your powerlessness to Him. He responds with never-failing love. Just know that God’s not going to take you out of your discomfort. You won’t grow that way.
“Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God…. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and His love is made complete in us.” 1 John 4:7; 11-12
Why does going sane feel just like going crazy?
In legal terms, ‘insanity’ refers to the inability to distinguish right and wrong. “Spiritual insanity” is knowing what is right, hearing what is right, but doing the opposite, as acknowledged in Romans 7:15. We are each given the freedom to choose our responses, but learning to trust the unseen takes practice!
Sometimes it starts with taking another look at what you already know: Aggressive relationships with our earthly authorities have distorted the emotional image we hold of our heavenly Father.
If you can’t confront someone who’s disrespected you, write your defense on paper or open up to a trusted friend or counselor. God hears you, and that wounded child in your heart has heard the adult speak. You’re never too old to learn healthy boundaries.
Because parent figures are our earliest representations of God, we see God through their actions toward us. It’s almost as if we’re seeing Him through a distorted set of glasses. God’s not the one who changes. It’s our perception of Him.
Think about the people who raised you, and put that person’s name in the blanks below:
1. I question whether or not ____________________ genuinely loves and accepts me.
2. I see _______________________ as a harsh, stern disciplinarian, and I fear his or her disapproval, punishment and wrath.
3. I am angry and bitter at ______________________ about my past failures, illnesses and disappointments. I wonder why __________________ has not spared me from these?
4. _____________________ seems distant and remote from me.
5. I imagine ________________________’s agenda is filled with people and things far more important than I. Surely ____________________ doesn’t notice me.
6. Some part of me feels so unworthy. I question if I could ever win _____________________’s love and approval.
Now, go back and read each of these statements aloud, inserting God’s name in the ones that apply to your image of Him. In each of these descriptions you are seeing your heavenly Father through the filter of your old experiences with an earthly parental figure. These questions come from Hemfelt, et al; the Path to Serenity; Thomas Nelson, 1991
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